tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6093110082255125617.post2908430271403694239..comments2023-11-16T22:46:30.130-08:00Comments on Pontificationism: Looking for RealisationsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6093110082255125617.post-5479078002752349032012-06-01T06:47:51.473-07:002012-06-01T06:47:51.473-07:00A girl I worked with had recurrent, horrendous mig...A girl I worked with had recurrent, horrendous migraines. She received little sympathy from fellow sufferers, and was often referred to as a hypochondriac. Turns out she has MS. All those years she was possibly in excruciating pain, while colleagues bragged about their superior pain management skills. Not sure what my point is. Maybe that some people will not allow themselves to sympathize without empathy.<br />To daydream, for me, is luxury. You should continue to enjoy this phase as much as you can. Pretty soon, the dynamic, energetic and perhaps a little impatient you will re-emerge, and you'll have a brain full of creativity to go with it.<br /><br />You're clearly doing VERY well.<br /><br />Lucylucy joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04863146546863419637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6093110082255125617.post-14356877987704365062012-06-01T05:26:23.482-07:002012-06-01T05:26:23.482-07:00Like Sonia, I don't think whoever has made suc...Like Sonia, I don't think whoever has made such comments meant any harm; they probably never thought their words could come across the way you took them. It is most likely just their way of trying to tell you, look, it could have been a lot worse, and we are glad you are already so close to being back to normal.<br /><br />Your experience with people being so kind, people you didn't even think knew you, is similar to what happened after Steve's death. People wrote to me and rang, and I will never forget how packed the place was at the funeral - I couldn't believe it when I turned round from my seat in the front row and saw so many had come that some were left standing against the back wall.<br /><br />Your feeling guilty about your own reaction to some comments is also something I can relate to.<br />There were some people who kept asking me again and again how I was, which to me seemed (from their tone of voice and facial expression) as if they either didn't believe me when I said I was alright, or were actually waiting for me to break down in front of them, secretly wanting some spectacular "show" from me, in the way sometimes people feel better when they witness someone else going through a hard time, or embarrassing themselves in public.<br />So, I tried hard to be grateful to them for all the attention they gave me, but couldn't help feeling that there was something a bit insincere about their constant asking, and maybe I am doing them a big injustice by implying this.Librarianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05704656564078750607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6093110082255125617.post-15522648003268846682012-06-01T05:03:55.094-07:002012-06-01T05:03:55.094-07:00The comments that are niggling you are pretty inse...The comments that are niggling you are pretty insensitive, I think. On the surface maybe the commenter thinks s/he's being polite but in reality it's an invalidation of your feelings and thoughts. I would just ignore them... I don't think they know what they're implying. <br /><br />On a brighter note, so glad you came out of this trauma relatively unscathed and may you recover speedily.soniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09699796086402523726noreply@blogger.com